A Walk Inside us

"Even though I adore music, just for today, I’d like to hear the peaceful sounds of the nature, and the yellow leaves rustling in the wind here and there, and the birds chirping and perhaps the singing of insects, etc…and also the voice inside me…

I’d like to hear that silent voice amidst this tranquility…

You know, when we’re silent we can hear the echo of the voice inside us in crystal clarity. I feel as if writing is some kind of silent walking through letters. When we write, we seem to be walking on a road by wording the things we kept quiet about, yes, our silence turns into a waterfall flowing easily on its way ahead. Why do we want to hear the voice of the silence hidden inside us? Maybe, we are already tired enough of telling the things we should, and, of playing our prescribed roles in certain circumstances encircling us.

There is no such thing as “to be lonely” but to be on one’s own. The times when we say we’ve had enough of loneliness, in fact, we unknowingly state that we’ve spent time on our own longer than necessary. On the contrary, when we’ve been among the crowds for a long time, we feel as though we are seperated from our own self. I think, as long as we live we

can’t avoid this sort of paradoxical feelings cherishing in our inner worlds.

Sometimes, walking together with a true friend is the best of all. We hear the sounds

of the two inner worlds together. Then, we start to talk about something irrelevant which sums up the things going through our minds, we don’t need to relate our topic to the previous one or any other, that is, we enjoy the magnificient freedom of voicing ourselves as we truly are. This is probably the most relaxing one of all conversations. If your friend talks to you, it’s because he/she wants to say something straight through the heart, not because he/she thinks it’s necessary to talk. And, you don’t also need to be responsive just to prove that you’re a good listener, because your intentions are not tested but trusted by a true friend.

Today, I want to take a walk on a roadside full of trees beside…

And, I wish i take with me one of my best friend - who once was my soulmate ,

So, there would be no need for words to make us trust each other.

Just one word would be enough to recall so many sweet memories

between us and smile at them together... "

Relationships

TRUST

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it! is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation. A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is." Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB"....

NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind t! hat because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive others, others will ignore our mistake too.

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS...

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please."

"Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied,

"I understand you need television." There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.

Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations. .

RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy.We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, hewill be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them.

Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.

Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?"
The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge . Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't.

Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Chat with GOD

God: Hello. Did you call me?

Man: Called you? No... Who is this?
God: This is God. I heard your prayers. So I thought I will chat.
Man: I am actually busy now. I am in the midst of something...
God: What are you busy at? Ants are busy too.
Man: Don't know. But I can't find free time. Life has become hectic. It's rush hour all the time.
God: Sure. Activity gets you Busy. But Productivity gets you Results. Activity

Consumes time. Productivity frees it.
Man: I understand. But I still can't figure it out. By the way, I was not expecting YOU to buzz me on instant messaging chat.
God: We will wanted to resolve your fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this NET Era, I wanted to reach you through the medium you are comfortable with.
Man: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?
God: Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it complicated.
Man: Why are we then constantly unhappy?
God: Your Today is the Tomorrow that you worried about Yesterday. You are worrying because you are analyzing. Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.
MAN: But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?
God: Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.
MAN: But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty.
God: Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optio nal.
MAN: If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?
God: Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don't suffer. With that experience their life becomes better not bitter.

MAN: You mean to say such experience is useful?
God: Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. It gives the test first and based on results the lessons afterwards.
MAN: But still, why such tests? Why can't we be free from problems?
God: Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons (to) Enhance Mental Strength. Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance. Not when you
are free from problems.
MAN: Frankly in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where we are heading...
God: If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Looking outside, you dream. Looking inside, you awaken. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.
MAN: Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more than moving in the right direction. What should I do?
God: Success is a measure as decided by others... Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you. Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead. You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.
MAN: In tough times, how do you stay motivated?

God: Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.
MAN: What surprises you about people?
God: When they suffer they ask, "Why me?" When they prosper, they never ask "Why me". Everyone wishes to have truth on his or her side, but few want to be on the side of the truth.
MAN: Sometimes I ask, who am I, why am I here. I can't get the answer.
God: Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it. Life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation.
MAN: How can I get the best out of life?
God: Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.

MAN: One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.
God: There are no unanswered prayers. At times the answer is NO.
MAN: Thank you for this wonderful chat. It was very inspirational.
God: Keep the faith and Drop the fear. Don't Believe your doubts and Doubt your beliefs. Life is a mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

The L'll Orphan

In the name of God who Created You One day in the best way.

as usually, an orphan, a little girl, stood at the street corner begging for food, money or whatever she could get. Now, this girl was wearing very tattered clothes, was dirty and quite dishevelled. A well-to-do you man passed that corner without giving the girl a second look. But, when he returned to his expensive home, his happy and comfortable family, and his well-laden dinner table, his thoughts returned to the young orphan. He became very angry with God for allowing such conditions to exist. He reproached God, saying, "How can you let this happen? Why don't you do something to help this girl???" Then he heard God in the depths of his being responding by saying "I did. I created You."

You dont even have to pass it as long as youv read it i know you were
blessed...

"rise each day with a song on your lips,
a melody in your heart and meet the world with
a greeting of good cheer."

What goes around comes around

The Hospital Window

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window.The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.
Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by.Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it. In his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days and weeks passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window.

The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blanked wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.

" Epilogue: There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy.

How To "Forget" and Move On

A friend had written in her blog asking advice on how to move on after a break up with her ex-boyfriend. Many had advised her to start a new hobby, do things to distract her from thinking about him etc. In the end, she said that all those ideas have not worked and only making it worse.

In my opinion, she had approached the problem wrongly. In case you’re reading this. These are the most important steps you must do first.

1) Ask youself – Do you really want to move on?

• The problem with people nowadays is we don’t really know what we want. We said we want to forget the ex-boyfriend and move on but the truth is we are the happiest when thinking about him. So ask yourself, do you really want to move on or not? Establish this first or any attempt to forget him will be useless

2) In order to forget, stop trying to forgetThis is also where people usually go wrong. We cannot force our mind to forget. It will only remember even clearer. Take sleeping for example, try forcing yourself to sleep. You will end up stay awake the entire night. So step no 2 is to stop trying to forget. Stop immediately!

So what do you do now that you stop trying to forget. You learn from the experience. If your boyfriend is abusive, list down how to identify abusive people for your future reference. Learn everything you can from it and (THIS IS IMPORTANT) whenever his image come up to your mind, reanalyze your experience again. Do take note that this is a very difficult process. It is always much easier and happier to just day dreaming of him proposing to you but you should avoid this.

• Remember, whenever you start thinking about him, NO day dreaming and start listing down lessons. Your mind will slowly associates the memory with “listing down lesson” and hate it so much that it will automatically stop the memory from ever resurface again
• ————— Personal Note ————————–

I personally love to listen to people’s problem when they talk to me about it. I usually prefer not to offer any advice but just an ear. After people let out all their problem verbally, they will usually have a clearer picture of their problem and its solution.I personally love to listen to people’s problem coz It usually will enrich me with the experience without having to go through them

A Walk Inside us

"Even though I adore music, just for today, I’d like to hear the peaceful sounds of the nature, and the yellow leaves rustling in the wind here and there, and the birds chirping and perhaps the singing of insects, etc…and also the voice inside me…

I’d like to hear that silent voice amidst this tranquility…

You know, when we’re silent we can hear the echo of the voice inside us in crystal clarity. I feel as if writing is some kind of silent walking through letters. When we write, we seem to be walking on a road by wording the things we kept quiet about, yes, our silence turns into a waterfall flowing easily on its way ahead. Why do we want to hear the voice of the silence hidden inside us? Maybe, we are already tired enough of telling the things we should, and, of playing our prescribed roles in certain circumstances encircling us.

There is no such thing as “to be lonely” but to be on one’s own. The times when we say we’ve had enough of loneliness, in fact, we unknowingly state that we’ve spent time on our own longer than necessary. On the contrary, when we’ve been among the crowds for a long time, we feel as though we are seperated from our own self. I think, as long as we live we

can’t avoid this sort of paradoxical feelings cherishing in our inner worlds.

Sometimes, walking together with a true friend is the best of all. We hear the sounds

of the two inner worlds together. Then, we start to talk about something irrelevant which sums up the things going through our minds, we don’t need to relate our topic to the previous one or any other, that is, we enjoy the magnificient freedom of voicing ourselves as we truly are. This is probably the most relaxing one of all conversations. If your friend talks to you, it’s because he/she wants to say something straight through the heart, not because he/she thinks it’s necessary to talk. And, you don’t also need to be responsive just to prove that you’re a good listener, because your intentions are not tested but trusted by a true friend.

Today, I want to take a walk on a roadside full of trees beside…

And, I want to take my loved one-ofcourse my hubby with me,

So, there would be no need for words to make us trust each other.

Just one word would be enough to recall so many sweet memories

between us and smile at them together... "

The Empty Jar And 2 Cups of Coffee

When things in your life seem, Almost too much to handle, When 24 Hours in a day is not enough, Remember the story of the empty jar and 2 cups of coffee.


A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.
He then asked the students, If the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar.

He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open Areas between the golf balls.
He then asked The students again If the jar was full..
They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full.
The students responded with an unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced Two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents Into the jar, effectively Filling the Empty space between the sand.
The students laughed.

'Now,' said the professor, As the laughter subsided,
'I want you to recognize that This jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things - God, family, children, health, friends, and favorite passions – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, Your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter Like your job, house, and car.
The sand is everything else -- The small stuff.

'If you put the sand into the jar first,' He continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

So...

Pay attention to the things That are critical to your happiness.
Play With your children.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time
To clean the house and fix the disposal.

'Take care of the golf balls first -- The things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.'

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled.
'I'm glad you asked'.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a cup of coffee with a friend.'

PLEASE REMEMBER THIS…WORK IS IMPORTANT BUT NOT AND NEVER MORE THAN GOD, HEALTH , FAMILY AND FREINDS……SO IF SOME OF U ARE WORKA HOLICS OR THINK THAT U ARE IMPORTANT TO WORK……U ARE SO NOT LIVING UR LIFE THE RIGHT WAY…. … REORGANISE UR LIFE…..

WORK COMES AND GOES , LIFE DOESN’T……

Always Follow Your Dreams

There were once 2 brothers who lived on the 80th level. On coming home one day, they realized to their dismay that the lifts were not working and that they have to climb the stairs home.

After struggling to the 20th level, panting and tired, they decided to abandon their bags and come back for them the next day. They left their bags then and climbed on. When they have struggled to the 40th level, the younger brother started to grumble and both of them began to quarrel. They continued to climb the flights of steps, quarreling all the way to the 60th floor.

They then realized that they have only 20 levels more to climb and decided to stop quarreling and continue climbing in peace. They silently climbed on and reached their home at long last. Each stood calmly before the door and waited for the other to open the door.

And they realized that the key was in their bags which was left on the 20th floor

This story is reflecting on our life...many of us live under the expectations of our parents, teachers and friends when young. We seldom get to do the things that we really like and love and are under so much pressure and stress so that by the age of 20, we get tired and decided to dump this load.

Being free of the stress and pressure, we work enthusiastically and dream ambitious wishes.

But by the time we reach 40 years old, we start to lose our vision and dreams. We began to feel unsatisfied and start to complain and criticize. We live life as a misery as we are never satisfied. Reaching 60, we realize that we have little left for complaining anymore, and we began to walk the final episode in peace and calmness.

We think that there is nothing left to disappoint us, only to realize that we could not rest in peace because we have an unfulfilled dream ...... a dream we abandoned 60 years ago.

It is possible to fail in many ways

While success is possible in only one way ..

Worry Doesnot Empty

tomorrow of Sorrow...

It Emptiestoday of

its Strength...

This Thing that we call 'failure'

is not the

falling down

But

the Staying Down

Its not who u r

that Holds u back...

Its who u

think u r not...

How a Man

plays a Game

Shows something of his

Character ...

How he loses

Shows all of it..

The Ideas that have

Lightened my way

has been

Kindness...

Beauty...

& Truth...

The Longest Journey of

Any Person

Is the Journey Inward...

We r told never to cross the bridge untill we come to it...

But this world is owned by men

Who hav crossed bridges in their imagination

Far ahead of the crowd...

Self Confidence Is

the First Requisite

to Gr8 Undersatndings..

The Only way of Finding

the limits of the possible

Is by Going beyond them

Into the Impossible..

To the world

You may be One Person..

But

To one person

You may be the world..